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Shakti Gawain Author—Reflections in The Light: Daily Thoughts and Affirmations
http://www.shaktigawain.com/
December 8 
Be Flexible
Going with the flow means keeping your destination clearly in mind and yet enjoying all the beautiful scenes you encounter along the way. If life starts to take you in a new direction, be willing to change your destination. Be flexible. Savour all the surprises life brings, and life in turn will bring more and more wonderful surprises to you.
—Shakti Gawain
My Take on Living Free
Living Free is about submitting ourselves to the universe and accepting change. That’s it right there. Many of us today are afraid of change, and we always put up a good fight, myself included, but when the universe knows you are fighting whatever change it wants to make, the universe steps in, take control and move us in the direction we need to go. Submitting ourselves to a higher power is about trusting God, trusting our inner guide, our instincts and letting life lead us unto new experiences. Embrace change, accept it, relish it, and learn from the experiences. A new chapter of my life is emerging and yes, I am ready for the next chapter of my life to begin, I have no reservations, no fear, or any doubts, I am ready to build on a new foundation–for another twenty (20+) years, I want nothing less for myself, and this I do by letting go and trusting the universe and God. That for me is living free.
In the past several months now, I have to admit that it has been an emotionally trying one due to the end of my marriage that lasted for seventeen years. It will be my birthday soon, but I will embrace my birthday when it comes because it’s a celebration of the life I have had in the past seventeen years, with the closing of one chapter, leaving the past behind and the beginning of another chapter that God will finally determine for me. A very profound time but one I will look back on and realize with a sense of relief that I have emerged gracefully, yep, thankfully all in one piece, not mentally insane, oh, my, gosh! Yeah, it’s okay, I can laugh at myself. However, I was not alone though, God was and is still with me every step of the way.
It’s been a journey, but I have learnt a lot and these things I have learnt I will keep with me as I move forward on my new path, this new chapter of my life. I have no regrets not one, everything in life based on my experiences with God is that everything happens for a reason, it’s destiny really, but that been said, God never, ever leaves us alone, he’s always there watching, listening and guiding us through our journey in life. Even if things don’t happen the way we want, it will happen when God thinks it’s the right time.
Always try to maintain a positive attitude, it’s difficult sometimes but you can do it. What do you enjoy doing in your spare time? Find a creative outlet. For me, it’s writing on my blog, reading my favourite book, going to the library, I would love to go to the library everyday, but I can’t, oh, my, gosh! listening to my favourite music is also a creative outlet for me, as well as dancing, or watching a movie, find something you enjoy doing. The more you focus on things outside yourself the more confident you become. Help others in your spare time. Sometimes we can forget about our own problems and issues when we help others. Attend church if you like. I don’t go to church every Sunday, but I enjoy going when I can, yes, going to church is also a creative outlet as well. Most communities have indoor swimming pools, go for a swim when you get the chance. Recently, I met a lady at a local store, and we were talking about things to do during ones spare time, and she mentioned she booked a “Pilates class” that’s a great idea. Find something you enjoy, and do it. Think of things this way and ask yourself, “what would I do if I knew I only had a one day left on this earth, how would I spend my time, and what would I do with the time I have left?”
Self-Empowerment for women comes in knowing who we are and not feeling like we owe anything to anyone except ourselves and God. He’s the only one we need to be concerned with when it comes to how others view us and the things we do with our lives. Today, I feature “Fantasia’s Song—Free Yourself” because it represents what has happen to many women, where one person feels they are not happy or the person is not interested in been in a relationship with you because they are happy with someone else— when someone rejects you most often they are not ready for a serious relationship or they are already in a serious relationship, or there is something about you they don’t like, it could be anything. When someone rejects you, they don’t realize how hurtful, and painful their words can be. Yes, you will wonder why, but what’s the point, they don’t like you, they don’t see themselves been in a relationship with you. Sometimes people are afraid of commitment—Commitment Phobia, as it’s called. They get cold feet, afraid of the unknown, afraid of what the journey will be like, afraid of been in a relationship because they are not ready for the responsibility of a serious relationship so it scares them. There is nothing you can do about it, it could be any million of things why someone will reject you, just move on, learn from the experience and know that there is someone out there that will accept you for who you are.
When someone wants to be in relationship they accept you for who you are and you will know they are sincere because they won’t judge you based on your appearance, and find faults and if they don’t want to be in a relationship with you, then like Fantasia sings, “Go ahead and free yourself.” When someone really, really loves you, and you love someone back you won’t even see the moles they have, oh, my, gosh! Or if they have some sort of imperfection, or they limp while they walk, or whatever, you won’t judge them harshly, you will love all their flaws, because you love them so much, that’s what love is. “Love is Blind and Cannot See.” Love is genuine when you can look at someone and see what’s on the inside, not how they look on the outside. You can always buy, clothes and cosmetics and do a makeover on yourself and lose weight, but money can never, ever buy, personality, kindness, compassion or intelligence all that comes from within, always remember that. “You can always makeover a person on the outside, but you can never makeover people on the inside.” The world have so many people out there, you could find a well dressed person but underneath that, their mentality is a whole other story, something I have encountered before. I watch some of these dating shows and these women and men on it they are so well dressed, they have a ivy league education but no common sense, no sense of direction, they seem lost, just wandering, hoping to find the most perfect person, that doesn’t really exist actually, but that’s their goal. Still they don’t know what they want in life, scary.
Sometimes people hold on to emotional baggage from past relationships, someone might have lied to them or mistreated them and they feel everyone who comes into their lives are like that, so they judge you before they even give you a chance. Not everyone out there lies, not everyone cheats, not everyone mistreat people. There are some good people out there in this world, some of these people were strangers to me and they were kind to me over the years and ethnicity have nothing to do with. They were just genuinely nice people. For example, when I had my store a few years back a girl walked in and ask me how long my store was open for, I told her, she said okay I will be back. She was dressed simply and she was a young woman in her 20’s, I said to myself she didn’t want anything, she won’t be back, but I wasn’t rude to her, I told her to visit my website– I just forget all about her honestly. I said, “okay, fine.” One month later she showed up, do you know who she was? A reporter, from a local newspaper she wanted to do a story about my new store. I was just on my way to the doctor and she said “no problem, I will wait until you come back”—I was thinking, she gotta be crazy, this girl must have a screw loose or something, “who would want to wait on me that long? I can’t be that important I just operate a bakery, oh, my, gosh! I came back 2hrs later and she was still waiting for me. I thought that was so sweet, because she didn’t have to. She wrote the article and it was a Full Page article that went out to all the newspaper in Durham Region and as far as Newmarket—It brought me a lot of business. I have that article framed in my basement now. The Article was entitled: “Sweet as Pie.”
I would suggest people not judge people too fast—that’s a lesson for me too, it only hurts their chances for happiness. When something in your life like a bad relationship comes to an end, let it go, let it go, and when someone enters your life give them a chance to prove themselves first, at least for a while until you establish some level of trust, before deciding whether you want to continue with them or move on. Don’t judge people based on what happen to you before you met them, it’s not fair to them, get to know them first. Remember though, that there are some good people out there in this world not everyone have a mean spirit. Learn from the experience but don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself, Life is too short, too short to keep holding unto negative emotions.
Do you know what I believe? I think a lot of people could have wonderful relationships if they stop doing the same thing all the time. Some people—I don’t mean everyone but some people date the same kind of person all the time, they are never willing to come out of their comfort zone culturally. Anyway, Let them move on and find someone else and you can too. This song from “Fantasia” is so powerful in terms of the message that it delivers. The message of this song is not about been sarcastic really, it’s just basic common sense after all. If someone doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, you can’t force them, it’s that simple. That’s what Fantasia’s Song is about. It’s free will, you can’t control free will whatever they decide to do you can’t stop or force others to do something against their will.
I have in all honesty though, said those same words Fantasia sings about in the past, yes I have said, “Go ahead and free yourself, actually, I said, “I will free myself first.” Yes, because I owed that to myself and my two wonderful children especially my daughter who I have to set an example for. When my daughter is of age, I wouldn’t want my daughter to be in a relationship if she wasn’t happy or if the other person wasn’t happy with her, I would tell her to “free herself, to be strong and have confidence that she will find someone new and if someone rejects her, she should not beg them to love her.” Yes, “Life is way too precious to be anything but happy.” Always, remember this. I would also like to add that if you are going through the ending of a relationship, don’t wait for the other person to free themselves, you will find you will need to free yourself first.
I would never want to stand in the way of someone’s else’s happiness, if they can be happy with someone else and live a rich and abundant life, then by all means they should have that opportunity and I believe I deserve to be happy too. We all deserve to be happy in life. So, sincerely bless them on their journey and good fortune, and good blessings will come back to you. So, in all actuality when things in a relationship have reached the end of the road so to speak, and the person is not interested in been in a relationship with you, you know it and you do know when it’s time to move on. Based on my experience with God, and yes, you don’t have to believe me, but I do know that, if your a woman and your relationship has come to an end, that God will open a new door for you, he never, ever, leaves us alone, always remember this. When God knows your intentions are pure and true and that you are a good person, he will move mountains for you, and miracles can happen, when you are a good human being. God will bring a new person into your life at some point in time and even if there are naysayers, that say it will never happen for you, it’s okay, everything will happen when God decides it will, not when they decide–when God decides. Because God always have a plan, and once his plan is in effect, that’s it, we mere humans can’t change it, you won’t know what his plan is, but he always has something up his sleeves, so to speak. Sorry, I have to preach, oh, my gosh! God can do amazing things, crazy things. This I based on my past experiences with God over the years. God has touched my life so many times, I can’t begin to tell you how many things he has done for me since the day I was born. “God never fails to deliver.” “When you learn to trust God, then and only then, can you learn to live freely.”
Fantasia Barrino 26 yrs.old, became an American Idol winner in 2004.
Visit Fantasia here: http://www.fantasiaofficial.com/us/home
If your a woman who has ever gotten rejected by anyone, or your marriage or relationship has come to an end, or is coming to an end, this song is for all of you. I Love all of Fantasia’s songs she is beautiful and funny and she has such a great voice her message really rings true. . Go ahead turn this song up. I can’t sing, so Fantasia sings for me, oh, my gosh! Deep & Powerful Song, it speaks for itself.
Watch Video on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BWs3fs9nnzc
Watch Video on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GYmKqlmfQNA
I love this song “Anonymous” http://www.justbobby.com/ You can see the rest of Bobby Valentino’s other videos, on Youtube. Songs like “Slow Down” & “Beep, Beep, & et. al.”
John Legend http://www.johnlegend.com/us/home & Andre 3000—My son loves this song, I think it’s the beat he likes. It’s a real party song, It will get you in a good mood for sure—I can’t stop dancing to it, oh, my gosh! Enjoy! Listen to this song at (4:13 ) into the video Andre sings to this girl and says casually, “ I got me into jail for two years and they let me loose.” oh, my, gosh! like that is going to help him to get this girl—he’s trying to pick up this girl but he just got out of jail, and dressed up like crazy. Funny video.
Watch Video on Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o-AbEO6J8s0
Movie I watched this weekend:
“Going the Distance” Starring, Drew Barrymore & Justin Long.
Okay, so half the entire world probably saw this movie already, I just watched this movie last night. I wanted to see this movie months ago because I heard it was really good, but I was too busy all year, or my kids took over both television, so I only get to watch a movie occasionally. I Love Drew Barrymore so I wanted to see this movie. Let’s just say there is a lot of “F” words in this movie, nearly every sentence, so don’t watch this around your kids.
Okay, Okaaay….. oh, my, gosh I can’t stop laughing, I laugh so much I had tears, yes, tears in my eyes! This movie is so funny, so funny, I am still laughing even today. I really needed a good laugh and this movie delivers. If you haven’t seen it yet, I say give it shot, you won’t be disappointed for sure. This is a great movie for singles or if you are in a new relationship, really funny, lots of laugh.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1HGDx2cAdMo
