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It is Saturday and it is fall, I love the fall season though, but it is cold by the lake,very cold. I have been so busy in the past week trying to get as organized as I can with my moving, I think if you ask me my name, I would forget. Too funny, oh, my, gosh! Yep, I am so tired I can’t remember my name. I will be spending today relaxing listening to music and wondering, “why on earth did I decide to give myself so much work?” Oh, my, gosh. Don’t ask me where I find the time or the energy. My entire apartment is clean though so once I move in all I have to do is just pack out the remainder of the things I have. Anyway, next week will be the week that I will be packing out most of the things I have so I will be very busy. I know, my blog readers are saying, I am busy but I am still writing my blog post. Writing for me is like breathing it doesn’t feel like work at all, writing keeps me centered and focus, it comes naturally to me and yes, it calms me. Writing for me is like baking, baking comes so naturally to me it doesn’t feel like work.
Yep, that’s me always trying to get as organized as possible, staying one step ahead. Yes, I like to do everything in advance, get as organize as possible, less stress—no I don’t need the stress—Yes, I have enough to deal with already, I need a break though, some rest would be nice. Anyway, I know God is watching over me. I can’t prove it, but I know he’s watching over me everyday, no doubt about it. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have been able to make it this far. Yes, God does indeed have a plan for me, so I am just going with the flow, I will leave everything in his hands, he does a better job than I do.
So, this week I posted just some of the music I am listening to this weekend, (see below). Let’s take a look at Lil Wayne’s song: “How to Love.”
This song honestly reminds me of a girlfriend I had in Jamaica years ago, just after I finished College. We met because I rented an apartment from her boyfriend in Montego Bay. This girl was absolutely beautiful, gorgeous—I still remember her name, Mauviet. However, she got caught up with the wrong guy. This guy was into drugs, and he hung out with the wrong kind of people and yes, he carried a gun along with his friends. I didn’t know he owned a gun until months later after renting the apartment. Anyway, within about 6 months or so, I moved to Ocho Rios to work at a Resort but before I left, I tried tirelessly to get her to leave this guy.
I remember telling her, “your so beautiful you have so much potential, just leave him and find someone else.” She told me everytime she tried leaving he would find her and bring her back. What would this guy do to get her back? He would threaten to hurt her mother or the rest of her family, he knew where her mom lived. I felt so sorry for her. Anyway, her boyfriend figured I was trying to get her to leave him and and he told me to “back off and leave her alone.” Typical me, oh, my, gosh! If I see someone in trouble I will try to help them. I knew he carried a gun and he had a criminal record so, yeah, I backed off. I just prayed for her and told her to try and figure out a way to leave this guy. I don’t know what happened to her but I still think about her now and again. So yes, this song reminds me of her.
This is what Lil Wayne song is about. It’s about how some of us young women get caught up with the wrong guy or the wrong relationship because many of us, never had a role model, someone in our lives to show us what love is. As we grew up, we kinda just learnt on our own, which is not bad but it helps if you have great role models in your life like your mom or dad or grandparents. For me my Grandparents were my role models. Anyway, before you know it, most women end up in situations that is just bad for us. I think one of the important things to point out and yes, I take this advice for myself as well, my Grandmother always say, “You can never judge a book just by it’s cover.” So true, So true. Sometimes we women meet men and we take them at face value first without really seeing what these men are made from the inside. A man might dress in a nice suit, but underneath their character speaks volumes of what they are inside. So, often times we might meet someone and fall hard for them but that doesn’t help us, because you have to be able to see what a person is made of from the inside first. If a person is not sincere about their feelings for you as a woman it will come through eventually.
How? Just by the persons actions, if they cause the person more pain, suffering and even financial loss, etc, etc, then that person is not someone who loves sincerely. Yes, “you might love the person—but the person don’t necessarily love you too, or I should say their love for you doesn’t run as deep.” Everything always comes down to a persons actions. If they treat you kindly and with respect then they have good intentions. Plus it’s all about follow through. You have to watch and see how soon they drop the ball on you, because insincere people can never fake it for long. Their true self always comes out in the end. No you can never fake your personality, your personality is like your DNA it is embedded in you, you can never fake that, no matter how much you try. If they treat you disrespectfully, then they are not been sincere. I have to be honest by saying that sometimes we women see the signs, yes the signs and yes, I will say I am guilty of that, yep! Guilty as charged, oh, my, gosh! We see the signs that the person is not right for us, but we either ignore it, or we try to tell ourselves that what see can’t possible be true, because the person outward appearances says otherwise. Yep!
Sometimes you ask yourself when you meet someone and they treat you disrespectfully without any regard has to how much they have hurt us, and you wonder “How could someone look so nice and so pleasant have such a mean spirit and show such lack of compassion?” Your kinda left stunned as a woman wondering why would someone behave the way they did. What possessed them to react the way they did? Not out of love, no. They must have reacted due to some other reasons not known. When you can’t figure out why you just leave it alone and move on with your life, yes just move on with your life and God will always open up another door for us in life. Let the person who treated you badly, let them live with their actions on their conscience you just leave them in God’s hands. At some point in time they will see what they have done and realize the impact of their actions and then hopefully they will learn from their actions that what they did was not right. Sometimes when people do things to hurt me, I sometimes wonder if they don’t think about the future. Especially in terms of their children. One day they too will have children, “would they want anyone to treat their daughter that way?” A very, very important question for them to ask themselves. Before we hurt others we should all try to think about the consequences of our actions first and the impact it could have on a persons life.
When you fall hard for someone and it didn’t work out, my best advice is, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with your life. Always, always, look on the brighter side of life, always. I remember watching a movie once with actor John Cusack and he was saying in the movie that everytime you fall in love and your heart gets broken your heart expands and get bigger. So when you meet a new person and you fall in love with them, your heart then opens up more for this new person coming into your life. Yeah, I think that is true, Love is infinite right. It is endless, so yes, if your heart gets broken you can fall in love with someone else again. It happens to many people all over the world everyday. So, yes that statement by John is indeed true.
Another door always opens for us in life, God never, ever leaves us alone, he always has a plan, always. I always say, just leave everything in God’s hands he can see everything, even if you can’t he can, so just let him do his work, just trust in him. Nothing is ever hidden from God. Like I mentioned before, God will always open up another door for you, where there is a will there is a way, God never ever leaves our side, even when you think God have let you down, he didn’t he’s right there. So, never lose faith in God, never. Even if something bad happen to you in life, don’t blame God. Remember there is good and bad in this world God would love to save all of us but he can’t. He will however, stay by your side for as long as it takes and help as much as he can.
If you watch the Lil Wayne video you will see what I mean. About the fact that, unfortunately many women end up on the wrong side of life, but like the video shows if we make wise choices our lives could turn out really good and happy. Here is the link for the actual video: Lil Wayne Video: How to Love
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Stormie Omartian Prayer of the Day
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When You Need Help in Tough Times
Lord, I come before Your throne right now with confidence, knowing that because I am Your child, Your mercy is extended to me. I need Your mercy and grace to be manifested in my life in great measure today. I face difficult things, and I know I cannot meet these challenges without Your help. Enable me to walk through them successfully or lift me out of them completely. I know You will bring good out of the difficult times I go through, and I thank You for the miracles You will do in my life in the process.
Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Hebrews 4:16
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Yes, this is just a short list of what I am listening to this weekend
Have a great Weekend Everyone!
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Featured Musician of the Week: “Lil Wayne”
Dwayne Michael Carter, Jr. is 29 yrs.old, better known by his stage name Lil Wayne, is an American 
rapper. (Lil wayne and one his daughter’s seen in picture.) Lil Wayne was born Dwayne Michael Carter, Jr. and grew up in the Hollygrove neighborhood of New Orleans, Louisiana. Carter was born when his mother, a chef, was 19 years old. His parents were divorced when he was 2, and his father permanently abandoned the family. At age 13, he accidentally shot himself with a 9 mm handgun, and off-duty police officer Robert Hoobler drove him to the hospital, he almost died. After earning his GED, Wayne enrolled at the University of Houston in January 2005. He dropped out in the same year due to his conflicting schedule. He also revealed on The View that he switched to the University of Phoenix and majored in psychology taking online courses. Lil Wayne is a practicing Christian,who takes time to read the Bible regularly.
Yep, love this song from Lil Wayne digging the beat and the lyrics…Enjoy.
Released May 25, 2011
Love, Love, Love this song, by Karl Wolf and Kardinal Offishall can’t stop listening to it, of course the
reggae beat mixed with a bit of hip hop, is cool…enjoy!
Pitbull and Marc Anthony love this song…enjoy.
