I am always personally amazed by people who I meet from time to time who will appear to be so nice and friendly that I just simple want to invite them home for dinner. Wait! not so fast something doesn’t feel right too nice maybe, too friendly how do you know that the person is not on the up and up. I can tell you that for me most times I am accurate. Now the person or persons doesn’t know that I have already figure them out but I can honestly say that I feel a sense of enpowerment when I know that the person I am talking with doesn’t know I am on to them. There have been people around me that have for many years seems to think that I am completely clueless as to who or what they are about. “Why do people pretend to like someone when they don’t?”
Why fake the smile? Why try to let the world fall at a persons feet if you dislike them? Wouldn’t be easier to be honest with yourself and not fake the process. Are you guilty of this offense? Personally, I am been completely honest when I say people I don’t like I don’t talk to and I don’t try to be near people who don’t like me–It’s that simple. The question is, “how do you know when someone doesn’t like you?” First of all, I believe I have a gift from God to read not only peoples face but their body language. It is amazing the things you can learn. People who don’t like you will show various characteristics and signs about their feelings towards you here are some them.
1. Making you feel too welcome–By that I mean you visit them and they make you feel like your the best thing that God created–and I mean it when I say you are the best thing God created— but not the way how they dish it out.
2. Smiling at everything you say–They don’t like you just a cover up for major dislike or hatred.
3. Your Birthday Gift is elaborate—You know in your heart that on a one one level your relationship is not that close yet they shower you with the most expensive gift–could be interpreted as kindness but in most cases not.
4. They talk behind your back then denied it when you discover the truth.
5. They always make you feel inferior even though you think you both are the best of friends.
6. Always wanting to win–They never give you a chance to win a game and if you do you feel like enemy number one if you win.
7. They avoid you when neccessary if they have to tolerate you they do it but only because of some extraneous reason.
8. Jealousy–You just found out you got that great job that you have been wanting for so long finally you did, instead of congratulating you they find fault.
9. Trying to kill all your projects or dreams–You know the type even though you might not have succeeded in the past a really good friend would comfort you and offer suggestions not make you feel inadequate.
10. Abusing your trust–You confide in them only to find out the entire neighbourhood block know what you had for dinner last night.
11. You just bought your new home or car and they don’t even show up to take a look.
12. Your child just make the honor roll in College and instead of congratulating you and your child they barely make a comment or none at all.
13. You have been invited to a dinner party by the friend only to show up but they avoid you like the plague–saying they are just busy and they don’t have alot of time–your just their to make the room look full.
14. This person always want to foot the bill when you go out–You think they are been kind but behind you they lie and tell people your cheap and won’t pay for your own meal.
15. When you make a statement about something they try to top you.
16. They never call you to invite you out anywhere–somehow you slipped their mind.
17. If this person have kids they always want you to keep their kids for a couple hours but when you call they said sorry I am just so busy.
18. You are invited to a function by this person and it’s time to take a group shot instead of having you at the front and your suppose to be the best friend they push you to the back.
19. They lie to you all the time when you expect the truth and always set you up for failure.
20. Embarassing you all the time–Lack of respect is a definate sign that they really don’t like you.
21. Your the best friend and suddenly their having family over for dinner but your not invited.
It always doesn’t feel right when someone doesn’t like you but you don’t need to tolerate it and trust me, there is always someone out there that will like you for who you are. Like I always say, put yourself in a position mentally where the success of how you feel about yourself is not dependent on another person. You know who you are, you know your fabulous and despite what they may think, you love who you are. Take the first step to really study a person and if you see signs of something that you don’t like move on. If people make you feel like you are not worthy move on and create the friendships that God wants for you to have. As a mother I try to instill self-confidence in my children in the best way I can and part of knowing in your heart that there is nothing wrong with you if other people don’t like you is to look at your children and see how what other people think doesn’t matter. We are all beautiful people irregardless of what we look like. “Beauty is only skin deep.” I have had some setbacks with friends and people who have betrayed my trust over the years but I have managed to move on from those situations and find comfort in who I am.
Never feel guilty if a friendship doesn’t work out life is too short to have people around you that dislike you take care of yourself first and the rest will follow, God Bless.
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